While telling yet another story from this epic wedding, FMIL says, "Don't worry. On your wedding day, something will go wrong. It will be some dreadful disaster; just know that it will happen, but don't worry, everything will be o.k. Just focus on what matters most."
I know people say this, but really? Don't some brides, somewhere, have perfect wedding days? Or at least, days that seem perfect?
And of course, this gives me the chance to think about my wedding fears. I have a bunch of them, from having kids mess up the wedding to vendors who, despite seeming reliable, suddenly choose not to show up or disappear entirely. Plus there are the logistics of getting 100+ people from different parts of the country to the wedding venue, and all the little steps of planning (what if I forget something?). It seems like every step of the way, there's something to worry about.
At this, maybe I can apply one of my favorite quotes from President Obama. In response to something, some negotiation or another, he said, "I'm not going to anticipate problems." I took this to mean that one should be aware of the things that could go wrong, try your best to stop trouble before it starts, and then go forward hoping for the best.
This seems like the best approach -- after all, on the day of the wedding itself, all you can do is let go and do your best to live in the moment.
What are your wedding fears? Have you faced them yet?
*The photo above has nothing to do with anything, except that she's a literal representation of a bride who's got "too much going on."
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